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Hair in a Box

1/12/2021

 
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My Mom was great at being thrifty: coupons, discounts, you name it. One of the things that she did to save money when I was growing up was to cut my hair. She didn’t have any formal training but, somehow, she just picked it up. In addition to my hair, she also cut my Dad’s, and - when word got around that she was actually pretty good - she started cutting the hair of whoever came along. One of the regulars was my dear friend and next-door neighbor, Kevin Shannon, who can be seen in the blue shirt sitting next to my Dad.

One day right around my Dad’s birthday, Kevin was getting his haircut. Somehow, that day, he came up with the bright idea of giving the clippings to my Dad as a birthday gift along with a bottle of Elmer’s glue because, as Kevin said, “He really seemed to need it.”  My Mom must have thought that this was hilarious because she “ran with it as soon as it left my mouth,” according to Kevin. She even made sure that Kevin’s red hair clippings were neatly placed in a gift box with white tissue paper, the box beautifully wrapped with a red bow on top. Everyone was in on the joke, so we were excited for my Dad to open this gift. When he did, we all burst into laughter, especially my Dad.

Of course, my Mom wanted to document this moment, so we all lined up around the box of hair and smiled for the camera. It was one of those neighborhood happenings that we talked about for years to come and when I asked Kevin about the “hair story” for this week’s blog, it gave us both a good laugh even after all these years.

Let’s Get Married!

1/5/2021

 
As told by Ray Adams: 

Ruby and I had been dating for probably 6 months and started talking about a future together. I had been thinking about proposing because I was going to be leaving Trinidad soon, but she beat me to it. One day she just kind of blurted it out and we decided right then and there to get married.  

The plan was for her to come to the states soon after I got discharged from the Marines in June of 65. She didn’t get there until April of the next year though, so we were writing letters back and forth for 9 or 10 months. That was our main form of communication, as talking on the phone was so darn expensive. I was working at General Motors making $3 per hour and to make a call to Trinidad, it cost about a dollar per minute, which was kind of crazy. 

In our letters, we made plans for the wedding and talked about what was going on. In January of 1966 we had a huge snow storm in Syracuse with about 5 feet of snow, which even made the news in Trinidad. The papers labeled it the storm of the century. Knowing Ruby, I can’t imagine she was too happy about moving someplace so cold, but she never said anything about it, and ultimately she was very excited to marry me.

This first photo was taken in April of 1966 when they were at the airport right before Ruby was leaving for the states. Ruby is on the right, her mom is in the center and her sister Vicenta is on the left.
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She had her wedding gown packed in her luggage and was very concerned that she would have to open her suitcase at some point. I mean, here she is coming to the states on a holiday visa, and who goes on vacation with a wedding dress, right? Fortunately, they never opened her suitcase and she didn’t get into any trouble.

When Ruby arrived, my Dad picked her up at the airport and Ruby said that he was very nice, but actually a little nervous. Until we got married a couple weeks later, we stayed in my mom and Dad’s apartment, in separate bedrooms. My mom insisted on that. She was not a fan of hanky panky. 

I’ll save the story of our wedding day for yet another time.
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    "Ruby Tuesday" is a place for friends and family to share stories about my mother and show how she has  impacted their lives. 

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