I guess it all started with this guy named Barkely. We were both Marines and we were stationed in Trinidad together. I arrived in Trinidad on Christmas Eve of 1963 and was there for about 18 months. I met Ruby in the fall of 1964. She was working at a bank and there was this girl that worked with her that Barkely was interested in. The girl said she wouldn't go out on a date with him unless she was able to bring a friend, so he asked me to help him out and it turned into a double date. I really had no clue what I was getting into, but when I met Ruby, I thought she was really bright and articulate, not to mention attractive. She had done lots of things and had lived in the states for 6 or 7 months so we had a lot to talk about.
For the double date, we went to this movie called “The Upper Room.” It wasn’t an adult film, but it was a pretty suggestive movie. Ruby was a little bit embarrassed. It wasn’t anybody's fault, I mean nobody knew what the movie was until we got in there. It was just a first date, you know. Casual. When I picked her up, she told her Dad, “This is Ray Adams, we're going to a movie.” I just met him briefly. Over time, I used to go over there a lot and he would sit there and watch us while he was supposedly reading the newspaper. But one time I looked over and he had the newspaper upside down. He was just trying to protect his daughter, it didn’t bother me. The date went well though.I don’t know what exactly it was but we hit it off. She gave me her phone number and we agreed to see each other again.
The guy that took the photo was one of those guys that wanders around and takes photos. Then if you want the photo, he sends it to you with an invoice. Ruby gave her address to the guy to have him send it to her so she actually ended up paying for it. Although those guys charge you 10 times the normal cost of a photo, the picture didn't cost much compared to the actual date. That French dinner cost me a little less than I made in about a week and although the food was good, a week's salary is quite a bit of money for anyone. I think the meal cost about $30 and I was making about $150 per month at that time.
After that second date we started seeing each other quite a bit. I used to call her every night from the base. We’d talk about everyday stuff. Nothing really serious. We went to the beach, we went to other movies, we did some stuff during Carnival time and our love built over time. I stayed in Trinidad until June of 1965 and by then we were engaged. Getting married was actually Ruby’s idea. She kind of asked me but I’ll save that story for another day.